i'm a believer (dating common sense: rule #218)

Sure, you need to open yourself up to the possibility of a new relationship, but it doesn't hurt to bring a little bit of skepticism to the party, just in case. However, when a woman tells you she's "a mess" or worse, "a train wreck", take her at face value immediately. Otherwise you will pay dearly for not heeding what is in essence her warning to you. Seriously, dude.