love the one you’re with

Although the classic Buffalo Springfield song is ostensibly is about embracing the opportunity of a relationship you can actually be in—i.e. settling—its title implies a different perspective to yours truly. For if there’s a lesson many women need to learn desperately is that you can’t change a guy. At least not permanently; that level of resentment will eventually rise to the surface one day and chances are it won’t be pretty when it happens. Men are not like that cuddly puppy or cat you can train to your liking—at least not in most instances—and then reap the rewards of your efforts. No, that shit will bite you on your lovely posterior. And hard. Seriously.

You can always take that gamble if you so prefer, of course. But, good luck with that.